i know a lot of people aren’t going to like this post. and it’s fine by me. but as usual i can’t keep my big, fat mouth shut—and this time it’s about the titillating (yes, pun intended) and controversial “time magazine” breastfeeding mom cover…
so here’s how i personally feel about extended breastfeeding: i’m all for it. if you wanna nurse your kid until s/he’s got a date to the prom, by all means, go for it. okay, that’s a lil extreme, but you know what i mean. and i really don’t think it’s anyone else’s f*cking business.
i’ve always done things as a mom (and in general) that people say are nuts. i ate my placenta (well, i had it made into capsules, which i ate), i pumped and hoarded 2 entire freezers full of milk, i still co-sleep with lu and she’s almost 2, i made all her baby food, i’ve never let her cry it out, and i didn’t want to feed her cow’s milk, so i bought unpasteurized goat milk on the black market. not so crazy, right?
but i only nursed stinks ‘til she was almost a year old. i wanted to do it longer, but my doc made me stop so i could try to get knocked up again. so the dairy closed up shop at 11 months. (the next day i ran out and got botox, but that’s another story.)
but this new bambino will probably (fine, definitely) be my last, so i won’t have a reason to pull the plug on the boob. lord knows when i’ll stop—it might be when he’s 1, but maybe 2 or 3…and why is that anyone’s business but mine? even puddn said, “uh, no you’re not, janz…cuz that’s just weird.” good thing it’s not up to him.
i really don’t understand the big whoop. i’ve actually been reading a bunch of science-y articles that say it’s actually best for your kid to nurse until 3. and the world health organization officially recommends that moms breastfeed ‘til 3. but the american academy of pediatrics says that age is 1. wtf, america?!?
why are we so uptight when it comes to nursing…and especially nursing in public? i wrote a blog post a while ago about breastfeeding lulu in public, and i got a bunch of hate mail. i just don’t get it. is it because it’s so unusual to see a mom breastfeeding her kid that it’s not socially “normal?” maybe if we saw it more often, it wouldn’t seem so weird.
or wait, is it cuz people think of it as a sexual thing? if so, you need to get over it. that’s your hang-up, not mine. nourishing my baby (or preschooler) doesn’t have anything to do with sex, even if my boob’s out. in the rest of the world, no one bats an eye…here, people stare. again, wtf, america?!?
so back to the “time” cover. i absolutely love love love the message, and i totally support attachment parenting and all that biznass. but i do think that pic was planned for mere shock value—and let’s face it, to sell copies (did i mention i worked in magazine publishing for 10 years?). and judging from the redonkulous buzz, time warner’s really milking it, so to speak.
and i hate to say it, but that photo might’ve backfired on the true message here. i wonder how many kids stand on a chair (which btw, makes that lil boy look even taller and older…i’m sure that was planned for effect) to nurse. as much as it sucked me in (ba dum bum), it might actually do extended breastfeeding a disservice—portraying it as more of a spectacle rather than a bonding and natural experience. if “time” wanted to make people take one look and say, “eeew, gross,” then well done. great job. but if they wanted to gain support for the message…epic fail. then again, i bet it sells a sh*tload of copies.
i have to wonder if public reaction would’ve been any different if the photographer had captured a real breastfeeding moment, as opposed to staging such an artificial, defiant one. i guess we’ll never know. (sigh)
and one more thing: i completely disagree with the title. “are you mom enough?” come on. i mean, that implies if you don’t nurse your kids ‘til they’re in kindergarten, then you’re a bad mom. and that’s total horsesh*t. does that mean because i only nursed lu ‘til she was 11 months old that i’m not mom enough? f*ck you.
bottom line, here’s my take on being a mom: i do the best i possibly can. i try to keep an open mind. and i don’t (or try really hard not to) judge other moms on how they do it.
okay, i’m done.
btw, what do you think of the cover?
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